Dating a newly divorced guy
As I dealt with the issues, I found that I was still choosing poorly.
The last relationship I had was the strongest I've ever had, but she hadn't done the work she needed to do and it bled into our lives.
I was like a bull in a china shop, knocking women down like bowling pins in my attempt to find my next love.
After divorce, women seem to take time to consider what has happened and how they might avoid disaster next time.
A good quality blow-up doll would probably suffice and it might spare his next victim the chore of dumping them once they realize how emotionally damaged they are.
The cocktail of anger towards women, sexual repression, not doing the emotional work associated with the pain of divorce, realizing they are out of dating shape, and rarely having anyone to talk with about their feelings, serve to put a man’s sad, crumbled interior on display.
It would be handy if we could avoid the vulnerability that comes with doing the due diligence and taking appropriate action where needed.
What we forget is that even if a person hasn’t just exited a relationship, aside from knowing our own boundaries (which can rule out certain things that we’ve already made a decision on in advance of), we cannot get all of the answers upfront or have someone tell us what ‘the ending’ will be.